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Kama
Devadasi
Gender: Female
Rishi
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 10:29
My Blog has hit Page Rank 5 !
My website and the mirror is still a mixture of 4 and 3's, but it is really interesting how my eclectic mixture on the web has become so interesting to so many different people.
What makes me laugh is how people still look at all of this as a carefully designed publicity package...
Of course I wanted to present myself attractively but I also wanted my sites to present the real me and not just some contrived "doll"...
I think this shows that people are interested so much more in other real people even when they are involved in commercialised sex. I think by only participating in commercial sex by assuming a completely contrived identity for dehumanised sex, ...."Hi...I am Sexy Slut Sandy and I have three holes for you to fill..." some Women actually perpetuate the myth of the sex working woman as a social non-person.
If you present as a "fake person" you dehumanise yourself and give tacit permission to others to treat your body as a commodity.
The emotional distance that many sex working women lay claim to as a strategy for coping with the rigours of sex work is the means by which the woman as an empty shell is then sold as sexualised meat...
You are not having sex with a person but only a de-personalised and emotionally inert body...a sort of living sex-doll
If we demand emotional acknowledgement and contact with our clients, we are actually demanding that our humanity be acknowledged. This means we claim the right to be happy or unhappy, to be connected or to dis-connect with clients...most of all we claim the right to our real identity.
It is therefore of interest to me how many people claim that sex work professionalism is about denying self and assuming identities that play to the basic prejudices of the misognist.
I believe Sex with Men is Divine and draws me closer to my Gods. Kama's website |
Steve
Member
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Dikshita
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 11:00
Topic 1 (the sex worker thing is another huge issue)...
Google is currently updating page rank across the web....ranking of five is pretty respectable, but it may yet go up or (unfortunately) down. Good luck with it, hopefully Larry et al will see the sense of bestowing upon you a fond "googleye" 
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BandR
Member
Gender: N/A
Bhakta
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 12:10
I do so agree.
I have been a user of the services of paid sex workers for many years (my first experience was in Amsterdam in 1977) and since then, I have met many women.
Some have been fully engaged in what they do. They like the freedom that prostitution gives them. They like the lifestyle (and of course the money) and some of them really enjoy the sex.
A few should not be working as prostitutes at all. They truly do feel degraded by the experience.
Most seemed to be disconnected from the experience in the way you describe. They seem content with their lives and the work they do but take no pleasure in it.
Increasingly these days I have come to be able to recognise in prostitutes the qualities I seek and it has been a long while since I met a sex worker with whom I had no connection.
And I have come to enjoy the company of prostitutes very much. Not just as a client but in normal society. I am very happy to sit in a bar in a red-light district chatting with the off-duty girls. I find their conversation witty and intelligent.
BandR
I believe that Sex with Kama draws me closer to her gods. |
Frank de Groot
Member
Gender: Male
Bhakta
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 12:22
I've read allegations about you - "Team Kama", a group of guys "pimping" you.. It's clear that this is nonsense. Of course, your blog and this forum will do you a lot of good because the men that are interested in the "Devadasi approach" are probably also interested in Kama as a person. There are dumb blondes enough. Sexiness is about personality, IMHO.
Anybody intelligent and not ashamed of her profession would have an internet presence, and surely you'll encounter a lot of envy..
I think it's very cool, I never read a political blog/forum by a woman, let alone someone with such exotic religious practice 
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Frank de Groot
Member
Gender: Male
Bhakta
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 12:31 - Edited by: Frank de Groot
BandR: I know what you mean!
I have never been with a prostitute (well, perhaps I was but I didn't notice). Neither do I intend to, but I totally understand that you like those kind of women. Somehow they seem more "normal" than average.. I met a few and they were much more interesting to me than "ordinary" women. Not from an "erotic" POV but purely because their personalities were "deeper" somehow.
I have much more respect for a prostitute than for a woman who married for a guy's money in exchange for her doing housework and sex. Marriage should be about love and friendship and sex should be a side-effect of that. Of course, friendship can grow out of an arranged marriage but socalled gold-digging women are in my view the real whores, and people like Kama are respectable businesswomen, I am dead serious.
It's even better then "business" - people really benefit here..
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BandR
Member
Gender: N/A
Bhakta
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 14:54
Quoting: Frank de Groot Marriage should be about love and friendship and sex should be a side-effect of that.
I think that you're being a bit harsh there Frank. Marriage is fundamentally a complex of financial transactions that are designed to give a sound platform for raising children.
In that regard, it is generally successful. And since the nation needs children to be conceived, raised, educated and socialised - to an acceptable standard and at an acceptable rate - I give my whole hearted support to any woman who is prepared to take it on. It's a tough job.
But in our society - flawed as it is - the negotiations that are required to establish a marriage require women to disguise their wit and intelligence. And this can become a habit.
The focus of our modern media on romantic love as a basis for marriage is relatively new. In the 19th century (when romantic love was invented) marriages lasted for a very short time before one or other of the partners died of war, disease or in child-birth. It was not necessary for a romantic pair-bond to last for more than a few years. It was equally important for widowed parents to find a new partner as soon as possible (hence all the wicked step-parent novels!). This state continued more or less up to 1948 when the establishment of the welfare state started to make real improvements in the health of the nation.
Government legislation, designed to redress the terrible unbalance in the position of women in divorce proceedings in the past, has as a by-product, made undoing the financial contract of marriage increasingly difficult.
What we see now is a large number of marriages where there is no longer any romantic relationship between the partners. They continue as purely financial arrangements. Many women in such marriages stop all sexual activity with their partner. In this respect they are recognising the value of sex and declining to participate in trading sex for services.
The error is in not recognising that trading sex for services was part of the original contract - because they have been blinded by the whole “white wedding” industry.
BandR
BTW
I don’t believe that prostitutes are, as a group, any more or less intelligent than the general population but then, I have no reliable data on which to base an opinion. I just prefer their company.
I believe that Sex with Kama draws me closer to her gods. |
ennime
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 15:17
Quoting: BandR I don’t believe that prostitutes are, as a group, any more or less intelligent than the general population but then, I have no reliable data on which to base an opinion. I just prefer their company
And me as a sex worker is very happy about that 
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Cuni
Member
Gender: Male
Bhakta
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# Posted: 23 Feb 2006 15:48
Quoting: BandR I don’t believe that prostitutes are, as a group, any more or less intelligent than the general population but then, I have no reliable data on which to base an opinion. I just prefer their company.
But let's just remember Intelligence is NOT normally distributed so there are always a large group of people who function normally but just don't move beyond the world of the "SUN".
I am also wondering if considering prostitutes a "cohort" if we are not over-generalising Prostitutes are so different because of race, age, space etc. it seems the only thing they have in common is the stigma and exchanging sex for money.
I just appreciate the honesty of sex working women in providing quality sex and even companionship for money.
I seem to remember a sci-fi programme called firefly where the on-board hooker was called a "companion" and was considered a highly skilled person.
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Frank de Groot
Member
Gender: Male
Bhakta
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# Posted: 24 Feb 2006 11:33
Quoting: Cuni I seem to remember a sci-fi programme called firefly where the on-board hooker was called a "companion" and was considered a highly skilled person.
Modern armies started to do this again, under the guise of "non-discriminatory hiring". 25% of all women in the US army get raped during their service. When they complain they are told by their superiors to take a hike if they don't like it.
Quoting: BandR I don’t believe that prostitutes are, as a group, any more or less intelligent than the general population but then, I have no reliable data on which to base an opinion. I just prefer their company.
I don't think they are more intelligent but they are more "genuine" somehow.
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Cuni
Member
Gender: Male
Bhakta
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# Posted: 27 Feb 2006 15:07
I think that prostitutes should just be the same mix as regular people, but the stigma attached to it means you do get more weirdos and losers than "regular" work.
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BandR
Member
Gender: N/A
Bhakta
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# Posted: 27 Feb 2006 17:03
Quoting: Cuni the stigma attached to it means you do get more weirdos and losers than "regular" work
Not in my experience.
BandR
I believe that Sex with Kama draws me closer to her gods. |
Audit
Member
Gender: Male
Dikshita
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# Posted: 9 Apr 2007 14:46
Quoting: Kama ...."Hi...I am Sexy Slut Sandy and I have three holes for you to fill..." some Women actually perpetuate the myth of the sex working woman as a social non-person.
If you present as a "fake person" you dehumanise yourself and give tacit permission to others to treat your body as a commodity.
Dear Kama:
I fully agree with your observations. However, among "non-sex workers" (with hurting any body), there are a good number of women who treat their body as a commodity and sell it within the marriage knots to husbands in exchange of wallets, bank deposits, houses, property, exotic holiday trips etc. Surprisingly, their share in the societies like Bangladesh is huge. They do not want to have orgasms, rather more interested to wait until the husband finishes his work and in exchange what they want is money, social position/status, control over the his resources......and in any case no emotional attachment. So, as the most of the husbands, need a show piece
I am wondering to research their proportion in the society and will appreciate cooperation from every body, especially from you Kama.
With warmest regards
Audit
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